If we think these ways, no conflict will occur

Words of wisdom (or not, depending on your point of view?) shared with me a couple of weeks ago by a monk in a forest temple near to Vientiane. Please excuse the gender bias – it is in the translation only because in Lao the word ‘lao’ means either he or she.

Treat each human friend by thinking that:

  • he is our friend who was born to be old, become ill, and die, together with us
  • he is our friend swimming around in the changing cycles with us
  • he is under the power of defilements like us, hence he sometimes errs
  • he also has lust, hatred and delusion, no less that we
  • he therefore errs sometimes, like us
  • he knows neither why he was born nor knows nirvana, just the same as us
  • he is stupid in some things like we used to be
  • he does somethings according to his own likes, the same as we used to
  • he also wants to be good as well as we
  • he often takes much and much more from others whenever he has a chance, just like us
  • he has the right to be madly good, drunkenly good, deludedly good and drowning in good, just like us
  • he is an ordinary man attached to many things, just like us
  • he does not have the duty to suffer or die for us
  • he is our friend of the same nation and religion with us
  • he does things impetuously and abruptly just as we do
  • he has the duty to be responsible for his own family, not for ours
  • he has the right to his own taste and preferences
  • he has the right to choose anything (even a religion) for his own satisfaction
  • he has the right to share equally with us the public property
  • he has the right to be neurotic or mad as well as we
  • he has the right to ask for help and sympathy from us
  • he has the right to be forgiven by us according to the circumstances
  • he has the right to be socialist or libertarian in accordance with his own disposition
  • he has the right to be selfish before thinking of others
  • he has the human right, equal to us, to be in this world.
If we think in these ways, no conflicts will occur.
Thoughts?
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3 responses to “If we think these ways, no conflict will occur

  1. I think it’s a great way to remind ourselves that we are not above others; that when we judge others, we are being hypocrites, since we all have the same faults – even though they may “show up” differently; that we are all doing the best we can, even when it sure doesn’t look like it. Thank you for sharing this, Christina. And, PS…What is that first picture with the little cabin?

    • ‘We are all doing the best we can with what we’ve got.’ Your comment reminded me of a fierce debate about this statement when I was doing training in counselling skills. I choose to agree with it (and with you).

      The first photo is of one of the houses where the monks live. I’ll go back and label it when I get a moment. x

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